5 Tips – Positive Parenting

 

Parenting seems to be taking on a whole new look these days and for some it has become more challenging.  I came upon a fantastic resource through Dr. Marilyn Price-Mitchell and wanted to share a few highlights of her knowledge.

Positive Parenting focuses on nurturing our children and since that is one of my own personal mantras, I believe her 5 tips gives an excellent summary. She says:

“Parents influence their children in profound ways by how they live their lives and do the “right” things, even when no one else is looking. Kids learn how to solve problems and critically think about the world around them, in part, by observing their parents.”

 

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 Some of the key ways parents can model positive parenting behaviors are:

  1. Manage your anger. Anger is one of the greatest blocks to forming meaningful human relationships. When adults act impulsively, yell at one another, or seek revenge, children follow suit. This kind of behavior can lead to bullying, acting out in school, and not developing the skill of self-regulation – the ability to stop or delay an action rather than behaving impulsively.
  2. Stop the blame game and help kids do the same! When you are about to blame someone else for a problem, stop! Think about the foundations of positive parenting: Consider your own role in the problem, show empathy for others, and focus on the solution rather than culpability.
  3. Take politics out of parenting. Many of our political conversations have become divisive and unproductive. When adults make derogatory comments about others based on race, religion, ethnicity, sexual preference, gender, or political views, children think it is okay to do the same.
  4. Admit your mistakes. Children are growing up in a world with unrealistic demands for perfection. When adults admit and learn from mistakes, open themselves to feedback, and take responsibility for their actions and decisions, children learn to do the same.
  5. Work hard to accomplish your goals. When adults set goals and persevere to achieve them despite obstacles, they model invaluable skills to their children. As appropriate for your child’s age, don’t be afraid to show kids how you are working to overcome challenges in your own life. Be positive and hopeful.

 

 

Positive Parenting needs Cultivating

 

Being a positive role model to your child is a key factor in parenting.  We need to filter our own-selves and frankly ‘parent’ ourselves when we need reminders to keep in check.  If I had to choose just one tip that Dr. Price-Mitchell shared, I would choose number 4 – Admit your mistakes.  Now you may think that doesn’t sound very positive and your right.  The upside is that if you can learn to say “My mistake” and mean it, your child will too.

We all make mistakes and sometimes deflect the blame on others.  Where you will find your super power in parenting and create a positive culture for you and your family, is to think about these 5 Tips and be accountable – to yourself.  The result is a healthy mindset and a more cohesive environment for your family.  Dr. Price-Mitchell has more resources on her website RootsofAction.com

 

More Resources

For more on this topic and tips on how to set yourself up for Positive Parenting, watch or listen to the Flourish episode –

Cultivate the Garden of your Mind

 

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How to Improve Sleeping Habits 

 


Have you read every book on sleeping habits?  Are you a parent ready to tear your hair out because your child won’t go to sleep?  Or is your own mind so filled with thought, that you just can’t seem to wind down? Sleeping habits can be changed.  Give yourself 30 days and  practice how to improve sleeping habits with these Five Tips.

Having a child that is highly gifted proved provided more than one challenge when it was time for sleep.  But it’s not just about being gifted, sleep deprivation is becoming a problem around the globe.  You need  a good 30 days in order to see success and improve your sleep habits.  

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5 Tips for Success

 

But I’m too busy….   You may think, you don’t have time to ‘train’ your child or your own brain on how to shut down, but what is the alternative?  Medication seems to be what I’m hearing about the most and honestly that is not what is best for you or your child.  When we don’t get enough sleep, other conditions, sometimes chronic can follow.

 

Plan your Time

Now that we are all living a different lifestyle and have more time, it’s the perfect opportunity to set yourself up for success.  Begin with time and schedule your sleep to form a pattern.  Bed time and awake time is the same time every day because consistency is key – even on the weekends.  I know, grrr.  Time is a key element in your sleeping habits, for all 30 days.

 

 

Set the Clock

It’s time to buy an alarm clock or put your phone in another room that is far enough away that you won’t be distracted yet you will hear it when it’s time to wake up.  I do this myself, everyday and my alarm sound is to my favourite music.  Something that’s happy and makes me want to dance.

 

Stay Active

Speaking of dancing, make sure you have exercise incorporated into your day, a few times.  I love it when the whole family goes for a walk after dinner.  Great for the digestion and nice crisp air make for a better sleep.  The dog likes it too!  If you are serious about wanting to improve sleeping habits and have success in 30 days, you will remember to stay active.  You can always find 15 minutes to go for a walk or stretch or even do an evening yoga.  

 

Snuggles & Giggles

Since you don’t have any electronic devices dinging and pinging at you;  nor a Television or computer, it’s time to get snuggly.  You and your child are ready to put on a cozy pair of jammies, grab your favourite blanket and pillow and get under the covers for some giggles.  It still makes me giggle to this day when I think of snuggle time.  

 

Magic Formula

The magic in this formula lies in story time  and having a ‘paper’ book to read.  Either on your own or together but it has to be paper.  Remember, you have put the electronic devices away now.  The glow in the dark screens, especially at night when your mind needs time to rest, are a key to avoid for sleep.  Story time can also be telling stories, but that may cause too much excitement.  Choose a story that is happy and calming.  No dragons at night please, you want to dream and have a good nights rest.

 

30 Days to Success

“If we did all the things we were capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves”. Thomas Edison.

No overnight success here – you need to commit to 30 days to form a new habit.  Just remind yourself, matters that are important and have a sense of urgency will always get squeezed into the schedule.Think about how you can stretch, how you can challenge yourself and your family.Choose to feel like it, trick yourself if you have to.Tell yourself you can do it. Keep moving forward, one step at a time.The result, Equanimity.You will bring to your life more balance and feel better when you have a good nights sleep.

 

  • Plan your Time for Sleep
  • Set the Clock to train yourself
  • Stay Active even if its only 15 minutes
  • Get Snuggly & have some giggles
  • Read a Book in Paper Format – Happy Stories

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More Resources

For more on this topic and how to plan your time, watch or listen to the Flourish episode –

How to Manage your Time

 

Build the Foundation for Future Success of your Children with Success

Set the Foundation for Future Success

We are living in challenging times right now in Education – now more than ever as a parent you need to pay attention to the grades being given.  With distance learning, students, educators and parents must stay in the loop.  Set the foundation for your children and their future success with “The Golden Circle of Trust”©

I’m hearing stories of teachers taking away 50% of a students grade if they miss a Zoom class.  That is not academics, that is attendance and since when is attendance graded to the point of losing 50% of an academic grade?  How is this going to set the foundation for future success?

Participate – pay attention

A parent needs to pay very specific attention on how the foundation is being set.  I hear all the time, “oh it’s just grade 6” “oh it’s just elementary school” Oh no it’s not.  It is the very foundation of what your child’s mindset will be in the future.  It is personal because once you add in a few particles of peer pressure – voila!  Your Childs foundation is crumbling.

Let me give you an exact example of what I mean.  In Grade 5, the first Grade my son and his entire class were eligible to earn the President’s Award for Educational Excellence, I learned this lesson.  The entire class had exceed all expectations in anticipation of winning this prestigious award.  Each individual had risen to the occasion.  The final graded project was a team project that was going to decide on whether or not my son and his team were going to earn the final grade required for the award.  

We received the grading via e-mail the night before the “graduation” awards ceremony.  My son didn’t make the grade.  I was shocked, especially because he and his other classmates had worked so hard on their final project.  Being a mom, I called the other moms right away to offer support.  Imagine my surprise when they told me that their child had received a different –  higher grade.  How is that possible? Remember the key is to set the foundation for your children and their future success.  So now what?

 

Advocate – hold others accountable

Once I discovered what was going on, I knew I had to advocate for my child.  Not because of Grades but because of what this would mean to his own self-esteem, self-worth and reflection with his peers.  In a group of 20 students, what do you think it would have felt like being the only child in your class, that didn’t go up on stage.  That didn’t get the Presidential Award when his other “team” members did.   That he didn’t receive the same grade as his peers, who were on the exact same project – did?  Only because the teacher gave him a different grade.

Lucky for me, I kept everything.  Without getting petty in the nitty gritty, let’s just say by paying attention to what was expected of him and keeping in the loop, I was able to identify this and bring it to the teacher’s attention.  She did not admit her mistake at first but could not argue the obvious.  Hence, at the eleventh hour, changed my sons grade to match that of his team on the group project.  By the way,  I did not tell my son what was going on as I did not want him to feel he was not good enough.  Children do not need adult burdens, especially in Grade 5.  And, they are just learning to have a voice.

The Golden Circle of Trust© needs to remain strong.  Needs open communication and accountability by all.  Our children are learning at exponential speed and need the guidance of parents and educators to stay the course.  Don’t let your child’s foundation crumble.  Build a positive mindset and celebrate the victories.  Participate in their aspirations and remember everyone is accountable in The Golden Circle of Trust©.   Because when you set the foundation for your children and their future success, they have solid values and groundwork in order to build on. 

 

More Resources

For more on this topic and The Golden Circle of Trust©, watch or listen to the Flourish episode –

 
How to Motivate the UnMotivated

 

Is your child Gifted? – Here’s what I know


Gifted or Giftedness seem to be the optimum words for describing a child who has a natural affinity in academia.  At least that’s my understanding.  Is your child Gifted?  Here’s what I know, that worked for us.

First you should know, my child did not have automatic straight A’s just because he’s smart.  In fact, there was a lot of trials, tribulations and fiasco’s along the way that taught me so much – about him.

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This is about you!

 

A parent has an intuition about their child, and you need to trust it.  ‘People’, whether they are teachers or doctors, councillors or therapist seem to be quick on the draw with a “label”.  I’ve read list after list on what the traits are of a ‘gifted’ child and I’m going to say, it’s not that simple.  What is simple is that as a parent you know if your child is good at something –  focus on that.  Don’t worry about what the lists say.  Don’t think you need to medicate to keep your child calm.  And by all means, don’t think this is going to be easier because your child is smart.  You actually need to pay very specific attention.

Did I know what I was doing?  Not really, but I trusted my instincts.  I knew my child needed more support but I didn’t know I would have to advocate for him on an ongoing basis, as much as I did.  When I think back we were very lucky.  I say lucky because some teachers didn’t think he was smart enough.  Some teachers wanted to hold him back in the curriculum.  And one teacher thought he should be labeled ADHD and be medicated because he wouldn’t sit perfectly still.  But you see teachers have a lot of students to teach and as the years go by, they have more and more new ones, and it’s not one size fits all.  

 

Here’s what I know

 

I met all of my son’s classmates over the years as I wanted to really immerse myself in all things ‘gifted.’  Here’s what I know – they were all different.  There wasn’t one child that was the same as any other.  They all had their little quirks and habits that made them unique.  What that made me realize is that we are all like that and the school system is not designed to cater to individuality.

Being deemed ‘gifted’ is the same as being really good at a sport and that is your focus.  But you have to work physically at that sport to really master the game.   It’s the same as being musical, even pitch perfect and dedicating yourself to practice, every day.  With giftedness it’s the same, being really good in one or all of the abilities that are tested, need the same mastery and practice.  It’s just not as obvious as the other physical gifts people have.

We are all born with a gift, we were lucky to discover my sons at an early age.  There is one trait I felt as a mom I noticed his classmates had in common and that is none of them liked to be bored.  If they were not challenged enough, the tom-foolery would begin!  Sounds like a ‘normal’ child, don’t you think?  Is your child Gifted?  If your instincts are telling you they have a natural talent that is ready to blossom, then yes – you are right!  Children do not lack capacity, they lack enough teachers.

 

More Resources

For more on this topic and natural talent, watch or listen to the Flourish episode –

Nature’s Gift

 

How I helped my child love to Read – with Success


What? Your child doesn’t like to read?  That is not surprising, especially when they are being told what to read.  My first inclination was to blame technology and the vortex it creates – beyond my control.  Or was it?  So how did I help my child love to read with success?

First you should know, my child is very tactile and really enjoys being one with any project and bringing it to life.  But when it came to reading literature, for example, the result was that he found it very boring.  Which is actually an understatement.

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There is hope!

 

On the other hand, if he had to read for a Science project, he was all in.  This is a clear example of knowing your child, their strengths and interests and how this comes full circle for them. So how did I help my child love to read with success?   I made it all about him, and because I know him so well, I needed to step-up and help him through the process.  I did this by joining him in reading the same book.  Sometimes we read in silence, sometimes we took turns reading out loud.  To get the best results, you have to explore what works for you and your child and your schedule.

Did I really feel like reading with him?  Not initially, but I did it anyways and I felt his pain.  I wanted to at least try to help and discover ways to get him over the mental block of reading.  Once we came up with a routine, it became a new habit.  Now I think fondly of the extra time we spent together because it was also a good way of being accountable to each other.  I would proof read his book reports and it was easier for me since I had actually had read the material.  I was also able to provide real feedback to him since I was able to tell if he indeed not only read the material, but understood it.

 

Read with Success

 

What I haven’t told you yet, is that my son has been deemed ‘gifted’ and his ‘giftedness’ does not mean he is automatically good at everything.  I guided him to focus on what he was good at and not worry about being “perfect” in every subject.  It’s important to complete the curriculum but not at the expense of anguish.  He did his best work for instance, when he wasn’t feeling stressed.  I did this by taking the pressure off of him and joining in on the experience.

Plant positive ideas and your child will blossom.  My child didn’t like reading as he found it very boring if the subject didn’t interest him.  Now he loves it and can’t believe he ever didn’t like it.  He has found the power of the imagination and the journey that reading can take him on.  By the way, we tried audio books and they simply didn’t register as a learning tool for him.  We tried reading on the iPad and that wasn’t a good idea either because he needed to feel the book since he is a tactile learner.

This is simply one mom’s adventure with reading.  It is not medical advice nor am I a ‘specialist’….just a mom hoping to help others Nurture, Coach and Inspire the Next Generation for Success.  Because you know your child and what works for them best, you will find a way too.  It takes time and patience but in the long run it’s worth it!  That is how I helped my Child love to Read with Success.

 

More Resources

For more on this topic and cognitive development, watch or listen to the Flourish episode –

The Power of Paper

 

Mental Brain Health Wellness

Mental Health

When your mental health is challenging you. When you are feeling sorry for yourself and cannot find the strength to bring others up with your wisdom. Think of Invictus. The human spirit is so strong that it can stare adversity in the face and say no ma’am. No thank you ma’am,  please move on. You are invincible because you do not compare yourself to others. You are invincible because you know that as soon as you start making comparisons,  your joy  will get sucked right out of you. 

In this episode we discuss the importance of training yourself and those you influence on how to stay mentally strong.  Throughout the ages us humans have had many challenges to deal with, this is nothing new, yet we need reminding.  We need to remember that no one is responsible for our happiness but ourselves – and no one is permitted to impose their negative opinions on another.  When faced with adversity, remember you are a warrior and they should be embarrassed.  After all, you are the Master of your Fate, you are the Captain of your soul.  

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5 Ways

to Smile More


To Keep a Healthy Mindset

Feeling down? It happens. However, if the blues seem to follow you everywhere you go, consider these simple tips for raising your mood.

 

Surround yourself with flowers. Flowers have been shown to subtly lift the spirit of those around them. Grow a flower garden in the spring and summer and bring those blooms inside with you. Feeling low in the winter? Create a flower budget. Just $5 – $10 a week could bring a gorgeous bouquet into your life. Place it on your desk at work or wherever you spend a lot of time.

Adopt a pet. Furry friends bring an endless amount of joy into the lives of their owners, from play time to snuggling and beyond. If you have the schedule and resources that allow you to responsibly adopt a pet, do it, and let the smiling begin.

Do a random act of kindness. Kindness has a boomerang effect, so don’t be afraid to dole it out. Volunteer, help out a pal before they even ask for it or do something smaller. Next time you’re in line at the grocery store, offer the person with only one item waiting behind you to step ahead.

Create a happiness ritual. What makes you happy? A long bath with a good book? Journaling for 15 minutes every morning? Yoga? A walk with a pal? Incorporate more of this into your day to lift your mood.

Identify downers. Some downers, like a stressful job or a sick family member, cannot be avoided. But others, like a long commute or a toxic relationship, can be identified and cut. Ask your boss if you can work from home one day a week to avoid the commute, or if possible, look for another job closer to home. Another downer that may be hiding in plain view? Social media. Monitor how you feel before and after you spend time on Instagram or Facebook and act accordingly.

 

 

Neutral Colors 

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No Yellow and Green in Sight!

Are you planning a nursery for a babe-on-the-way? Whether you’re waiting to learn the baby’s gender, or are hoping to choose a more neutral color than the typical blue and pink, consider the following options:

Gray. This is an extremely versatile color; the shade options are endless and it matches with just about everything. Additionally, gray is a soft, peaceful color, so you’ll be bringing tranquility into your baby’s life from day one.

Seafoam green. Gentle and mild, this neutral color is both fun and soothing.

Orange. While an entirely orange room may be overkill, choosing a neutral white or gray with bright coral accents or a single tangerine wall is lively and fun.

Navy. While technically in the blue family, this deep rich color doesn’t scream “boy” like a powdery baby blue. Offset it with yellow or orange accents.

Beige. Don’t think ‘brown’ when you hear beige. This soft, buttery color is calm, neutral and pairs well with bright yellows and oranges.

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Focus

When you create your own space in order to work or study, it becomes yours.  Personalize it and create your own cone of silence by putting away technology when you don’t need it. 

Engage

 

Put all of your super powers to work by engaging all your senses.  This is easy to do when you use the power of paper.  It engages all our cognitive abilities, even smell, which helps us retain information easier.

 

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Goals

When you create a schedule you also create your own set of goals.  This helps you to reduce the number of distractions and stay organized.

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Strength

What better way is there to be rewarded than with a ‘mini break’ to call your own.  Something to look forward to always makes the task at hand a bit easier.

Health

To keep momentum and maintain support, you need to keep a positive vibe flowing.  Feed your soul, feed your body & feed your brain.  Whatever it takes, you will stay strong.

 

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PRINT: How to Work from Home & Successfully Transform your Life

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Keeping your family healthy is a top priority, but with everything we have to juggle in modern-day life, that’s easier said than done. Luckily, there are simple activities your whole family can enjoy that will promote a health-focused lifestyle in adults and children alike.

Visit a U-Pick Farm
Young children will especially enjoy visiting a local farm, but teens and adults alike can enjoy seeing where food is sourced. Visit a U-pick farm and gather some of your favorite fresh fruits and veggies. Not only is this activity more fun than a plain grocery trip, but you’re also likely to save money when buying in bulk.

Find Active Hobbies
Keeping your family active and healthy doesn’t mean everyone has to sign up for a sport or gym membership. Think of fun activities the whole family can enjoy that aren’t exercise-focused. Kite flying, paper boat racing, walking the family dog and picking wildflowers can all be fun hobbies that encourage movement without feeling like a chore.

Family, Tech, Outdoors, Cooking

Look for Tech Tools
For tech-loving families, there are a plethora of options to stay active without feeling like you’ve traveled to the stone ages. Try geocaching, having a step-count contest or play a movement-focused video game.

Cook Together
The best way to please a picky eater? Get them involved in the process. Cooking together can be a fun and messy experience that kids will enjoy. Get the whole family involved with age-appropriate tasks and try a new recipe together. Get chef hats and aprons to make it a novel experience. Just be sure to leave plenty of time and plan for delays if you are working with younger children.

Incorporate these simple habits that your whole family will benefit from, all while having fun.