5 Tips – Positive Parenting
Parenting seems to be taking on a whole new look these days and for some it has become more challenging. I came upon a fantastic resource through Dr. Marilyn Price-Mitchell and wanted to share a few highlights of her knowledge.
Positive Parenting focuses on nurturing our children and since that is one of my own personal mantras, I believe her 5 tips gives an excellent summary. She says:
“Parents influence their children in profound ways by how they live their lives and do the “right” things, even when no one else is looking. Kids learn how to solve problems and critically think about the world around them, in part, by observing their parents.”
Some of the key ways parents can model positive parenting behaviors are:
- Manage your anger. Anger is one of the greatest blocks to forming meaningful human relationships. When adults act impulsively, yell at one another, or seek revenge, children follow suit. This kind of behavior can lead to bullying, acting out in school, and not developing the skill of self-regulation – the ability to stop or delay an action rather than behaving impulsively.
- Stop the blame game and help kids do the same! When you are about to blame someone else for a problem, stop! Think about the foundations of positive parenting: Consider your own role in the problem, show empathy for others, and focus on the solution rather than culpability.
- Take politics out of parenting. Many of our political conversations have become divisive and unproductive. When adults make derogatory comments about others based on race, religion, ethnicity, sexual preference, gender, or political views, children think it is okay to do the same.
- Admit your mistakes. Children are growing up in a world with unrealistic demands for perfection. When adults admit and learn from mistakes, open themselves to feedback, and take responsibility for their actions and decisions, children learn to do the same.
- Work hard to accomplish your goals. When adults set goals and persevere to achieve them despite obstacles, they model invaluable skills to their children. As appropriate for your child’s age, don’t be afraid to show kids how you are working to overcome challenges in your own life. Be positive and hopeful.
Positive Parenting needs Cultivating
Being a positive role model to your child is a key factor in parenting. We need to filter our own-selves and frankly ‘parent’ ourselves when we need reminders to keep in check. If I had to choose just one tip that Dr. Price-Mitchell shared, I would choose number 4 – Admit your mistakes. Now you may think that doesn’t sound very positive and your right. The upside is that if you can learn to say “My mistake” and mean it, your child will too.
We all make mistakes and sometimes deflect the blame on others. Where you will find your super power in parenting and create a positive culture for you and your family, is to think about these 5 Tips and be accountable – to yourself. The result is a healthy mindset and a more cohesive environment for your family. Dr. Price-Mitchell has more resources on her website RootsofAction.com
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