5 Tips – Positive Parenting

 

Parenting seems to be taking on a whole new look these days and for some it has become more challenging.  I came upon a fantastic resource through Dr. Marilyn Price-Mitchell and wanted to share a few highlights of her knowledge.

Positive Parenting focuses on nurturing our children and since that is one of my own personal mantras, I believe her 5 tips gives an excellent summary. She says:

“Parents influence their children in profound ways by how they live their lives and do the “right” things, even when no one else is looking. Kids learn how to solve problems and critically think about the world around them, in part, by observing their parents.”

 

Positive Parenting

 

5 Tips

 

 Some of the key ways parents can model positive parenting behaviors are:

  1. Manage your anger. Anger is one of the greatest blocks to forming meaningful human relationships. When adults act impulsively, yell at one another, or seek revenge, children follow suit. This kind of behavior can lead to bullying, acting out in school, and not developing the skill of self-regulation – the ability to stop or delay an action rather than behaving impulsively.
  2. Stop the blame game and help kids do the same! When you are about to blame someone else for a problem, stop! Think about the foundations of positive parenting: Consider your own role in the problem, show empathy for others, and focus on the solution rather than culpability.
  3. Take politics out of parenting. Many of our political conversations have become divisive and unproductive. When adults make derogatory comments about others based on race, religion, ethnicity, sexual preference, gender, or political views, children think it is okay to do the same.
  4. Admit your mistakes. Children are growing up in a world with unrealistic demands for perfection. When adults admit and learn from mistakes, open themselves to feedback, and take responsibility for their actions and decisions, children learn to do the same.
  5. Work hard to accomplish your goals. When adults set goals and persevere to achieve them despite obstacles, they model invaluable skills to their children. As appropriate for your child’s age, don’t be afraid to show kids how you are working to overcome challenges in your own life. Be positive and hopeful.

 

 

Positive Parenting needs Cultivating

 

Being a positive role model to your child is a key factor in parenting.  We need to filter our own-selves and frankly ‘parent’ ourselves when we need reminders to keep in check.  If I had to choose just one tip that Dr. Price-Mitchell shared, I would choose number 4 – Admit your mistakes.  Now you may think that doesn’t sound very positive and your right.  The upside is that if you can learn to say “My mistake” and mean it, your child will too.

We all make mistakes and sometimes deflect the blame on others.  Where you will find your super power in parenting and create a positive culture for you and your family, is to think about these 5 Tips and be accountable – to yourself.  The result is a healthy mindset and a more cohesive environment for your family.  Dr. Price-Mitchell has more resources on her website RootsofAction.com

 

More Resources

For more on this topic and tips on how to set yourself up for Positive Parenting, watch or listen to the Flourish episode –

Cultivate the Garden of your Mind

 

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How to Improve Sleeping Habits 

 


Have you read every book on sleeping habits?  Are you a parent ready to tear your hair out because your child won’t go to sleep?  Or is your own mind so filled with thought, that you just can’t seem to wind down? Sleeping habits can be changed.  Give yourself 30 days and  practice how to improve sleeping habits with these Five Tips.

Having a child that is highly gifted proved provided more than one challenge when it was time for sleep.  But it’s not just about being gifted, sleep deprivation is becoming a problem around the globe.  You need  a good 30 days in order to see success and improve your sleep habits.  

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5 Tips for Success

 

But I’m too busy….   You may think, you don’t have time to ‘train’ your child or your own brain on how to shut down, but what is the alternative?  Medication seems to be what I’m hearing about the most and honestly that is not what is best for you or your child.  When we don’t get enough sleep, other conditions, sometimes chronic can follow.

 

Plan your Time

Now that we are all living a different lifestyle and have more time, it’s the perfect opportunity to set yourself up for success.  Begin with time and schedule your sleep to form a pattern.  Bed time and awake time is the same time every day because consistency is key – even on the weekends.  I know, grrr.  Time is a key element in your sleeping habits, for all 30 days.

 

 

Set the Clock

It’s time to buy an alarm clock or put your phone in another room that is far enough away that you won’t be distracted yet you will hear it when it’s time to wake up.  I do this myself, everyday and my alarm sound is to my favourite music.  Something that’s happy and makes me want to dance.

 

Stay Active

Speaking of dancing, make sure you have exercise incorporated into your day, a few times.  I love it when the whole family goes for a walk after dinner.  Great for the digestion and nice crisp air make for a better sleep.  The dog likes it too!  If you are serious about wanting to improve sleeping habits and have success in 30 days, you will remember to stay active.  You can always find 15 minutes to go for a walk or stretch or even do an evening yoga.  

 

Snuggles & Giggles

Since you don’t have any electronic devices dinging and pinging at you;  nor a Television or computer, it’s time to get snuggly.  You and your child are ready to put on a cozy pair of jammies, grab your favourite blanket and pillow and get under the covers for some giggles.  It still makes me giggle to this day when I think of snuggle time.  

 

Magic Formula

The magic in this formula lies in story time  and having a ‘paper’ book to read.  Either on your own or together but it has to be paper.  Remember, you have put the electronic devices away now.  The glow in the dark screens, especially at night when your mind needs time to rest, are a key to avoid for sleep.  Story time can also be telling stories, but that may cause too much excitement.  Choose a story that is happy and calming.  No dragons at night please, you want to dream and have a good nights rest.

 

30 Days to Success

“If we did all the things we were capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves”. Thomas Edison.

No overnight success here – you need to commit to 30 days to form a new habit.  Just remind yourself, matters that are important and have a sense of urgency will always get squeezed into the schedule.Think about how you can stretch, how you can challenge yourself and your family.Choose to feel like it, trick yourself if you have to.Tell yourself you can do it. Keep moving forward, one step at a time.The result, Equanimity.You will bring to your life more balance and feel better when you have a good nights sleep.

 

  • Plan your Time for Sleep
  • Set the Clock to train yourself
  • Stay Active even if its only 15 minutes
  • Get Snuggly & have some giggles
  • Read a Book in Paper Format – Happy Stories

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More Resources

For more on this topic and how to plan your time, watch or listen to the Flourish episode –

How to Manage your Time

 

Is your child Gifted? – Here’s what I know


Gifted or Giftedness seem to be the optimum words for describing a child who has a natural affinity in academia.  At least that’s my understanding.  Is your child Gifted?  Here’s what I know, that worked for us.

First you should know, my child did not have automatic straight A’s just because he’s smart.  In fact, there was a lot of trials, tribulations and fiasco’s along the way that taught me so much – about him.

Gifted Child

 

This is about you!

 

A parent has an intuition about their child, and you need to trust it.  ‘People’, whether they are teachers or doctors, councillors or therapist seem to be quick on the draw with a “label”.  I’ve read list after list on what the traits are of a ‘gifted’ child and I’m going to say, it’s not that simple.  What is simple is that as a parent you know if your child is good at something –  focus on that.  Don’t worry about what the lists say.  Don’t think you need to medicate to keep your child calm.  And by all means, don’t think this is going to be easier because your child is smart.  You actually need to pay very specific attention.

Did I know what I was doing?  Not really, but I trusted my instincts.  I knew my child needed more support but I didn’t know I would have to advocate for him on an ongoing basis, as much as I did.  When I think back we were very lucky.  I say lucky because some teachers didn’t think he was smart enough.  Some teachers wanted to hold him back in the curriculum.  And one teacher thought he should be labeled ADHD and be medicated because he wouldn’t sit perfectly still.  But you see teachers have a lot of students to teach and as the years go by, they have more and more new ones, and it’s not one size fits all.  

 

Here’s what I know

 

I met all of my son’s classmates over the years as I wanted to really immerse myself in all things ‘gifted.’  Here’s what I know – they were all different.  There wasn’t one child that was the same as any other.  They all had their little quirks and habits that made them unique.  What that made me realize is that we are all like that and the school system is not designed to cater to individuality.

Being deemed ‘gifted’ is the same as being really good at a sport and that is your focus.  But you have to work physically at that sport to really master the game.   It’s the same as being musical, even pitch perfect and dedicating yourself to practice, every day.  With giftedness it’s the same, being really good in one or all of the abilities that are tested, need the same mastery and practice.  It’s just not as obvious as the other physical gifts people have.

We are all born with a gift, we were lucky to discover my sons at an early age.  There is one trait I felt as a mom I noticed his classmates had in common and that is none of them liked to be bored.  If they were not challenged enough, the tom-foolery would begin!  Sounds like a ‘normal’ child, don’t you think?  Is your child Gifted?  If your instincts are telling you they have a natural talent that is ready to blossom, then yes – you are right!  Children do not lack capacity, they lack enough teachers.

 

More Resources

For more on this topic and natural talent, watch or listen to the Flourish episode –

Nature’s Gift