5 Tips – Positive Parenting


Parenting seems to be taking on a whole new look these days and for some it has become more challenging.  I came upon a fantastic resource through Dr. Marilyn Price-Mitchell and wanted to share a few highlights of her knowledge.

Positive Parenting focuses on nurturing our children and since that is one of my own personal mantras, I believe her 5 tips gives an excellent summary. She says:

“Parents influence their children in profound ways by how they live their lives and do the “right” things, even when no one else is looking. Kids learn how to solve problems and critically think about the world around them, in part, by observing their parents.”


Positive Parenting


5 Tips


 Some of the key ways parents can model positive parenting behaviors are:

  1. Manage your anger. Anger is one of the greatest blocks to forming meaningful human relationships. When adults act impulsively, yell at one another, or seek revenge, children follow suit. This kind of behavior can lead to bullying, acting out in school, and not developing the skill of self-regulation – the ability to stop or delay an action rather than behaving impulsively.
  2. Stop the blame game and help kids do the same! When you are about to blame someone else for a problem, stop! Think about the foundations of positive parenting: Consider your own role in the problem, show empathy for others, and focus on the solution rather than culpability.
  3. Take politics out of parenting. Many of our political conversations have become divisive and unproductive. When adults make derogatory comments about others based on race, religion, ethnicity, sexual preference, gender, or political views, children think it is okay to do the same.
  4. Admit your mistakes. Children are growing up in a world with unrealistic demands for perfection. When adults admit and learn from mistakes, open themselves to feedback, and take responsibility for their actions and decisions, children learn to do the same.
  5. Work hard to accomplish your goals. When adults set goals and persevere to achieve them despite obstacles, they model invaluable skills to their children. As appropriate for your child’s age, don’t be afraid to show kids how you are working to overcome challenges in your own life. Be positive and hopeful.



Positive Parenting needs Cultivating


Being a positive role model to your child is a key factor in parenting.  We need to filter our own-selves and frankly ‘parent’ ourselves when we need reminders to keep in check.  If I had to choose just one tip that Dr. Price-Mitchell shared, I would choose number 4 – Admit your mistakes.  Now you may think that doesn’t sound very positive and your right.  The upside is that if you can learn to say “My mistake” and mean it, your child will too.

We all make mistakes and sometimes deflect the blame on others.  Where you will find your super power in parenting and create a positive culture for you and your family, is to think about these 5 Tips and be accountable – to yourself.  The result is a healthy mindset and a more cohesive environment for your family.  Dr. Price-Mitchell has more resources on her website RootsofAction.com


More Resources

For more on this topic and tips on how to set yourself up for Positive Parenting, watch or listen to the Flourish episode –

Cultivate the Garden of your Mind


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Build the Foundation for Future Success of your Children with Success

Set the Foundation for Future Success

We are living in challenging times right now in Education – now more than ever as a parent you need to pay attention to the grades being given.  With distance learning, students, educators and parents must stay in the loop.  Set the foundation for your children and their future success with “The Golden Circle of Trust”©

I’m hearing stories of teachers taking away 50% of a students grade if they miss a Zoom class.  That is not academics, that is attendance and since when is attendance graded to the point of losing 50% of an academic grade?  How is this going to set the foundation for future success?

Participate – pay attention

A parent needs to pay very specific attention on how the foundation is being set.  I hear all the time, “oh it’s just grade 6” “oh it’s just elementary school” Oh no it’s not.  It is the very foundation of what your child’s mindset will be in the future.  It is personal because once you add in a few particles of peer pressure – voila!  Your Childs foundation is crumbling.

Let me give you an exact example of what I mean.  In Grade 5, the first Grade my son and his entire class were eligible to earn the President’s Award for Educational Excellence, I learned this lesson.  The entire class had exceed all expectations in anticipation of winning this prestigious award.  Each individual had risen to the occasion.  The final graded project was a team project that was going to decide on whether or not my son and his team were going to earn the final grade required for the award.  

We received the grading via e-mail the night before the “graduation” awards ceremony.  My son didn’t make the grade.  I was shocked, especially because he and his other classmates had worked so hard on their final project.  Being a mom, I called the other moms right away to offer support.  Imagine my surprise when they told me that their child had received a different –  higher grade.  How is that possible? Remember the key is to set the foundation for your children and their future success.  So now what?


Advocate – hold others accountable

Once I discovered what was going on, I knew I had to advocate for my child.  Not because of Grades but because of what this would mean to his own self-esteem, self-worth and reflection with his peers.  In a group of 20 students, what do you think it would have felt like being the only child in your class, that didn’t go up on stage.  That didn’t get the Presidential Award when his other “team” members did.   That he didn’t receive the same grade as his peers, who were on the exact same project – did?  Only because the teacher gave him a different grade.

Lucky for me, I kept everything.  Without getting petty in the nitty gritty, let’s just say by paying attention to what was expected of him and keeping in the loop, I was able to identify this and bring it to the teacher’s attention.  She did not admit her mistake at first but could not argue the obvious.  Hence, at the eleventh hour, changed my sons grade to match that of his team on the group project.  By the way,  I did not tell my son what was going on as I did not want him to feel he was not good enough.  Children do not need adult burdens, especially in Grade 5.  And, they are just learning to have a voice.

The Golden Circle of Trust© needs to remain strong.  Needs open communication and accountability by all.  Our children are learning at exponential speed and need the guidance of parents and educators to stay the course.  Don’t let your child’s foundation crumble.  Build a positive mindset and celebrate the victories.  Participate in their aspirations and remember everyone is accountable in The Golden Circle of Trust©.   Because when you set the foundation for your children and their future success, they have solid values and groundwork in order to build on. 


More Resources

For more on this topic and The Golden Circle of Trust©, watch or listen to the Flourish episode –

How to Motivate the UnMotivated


Is your child Gifted? – Here’s what I know

Gifted or Giftedness seem to be the optimum words for describing a child who has a natural affinity in academia.  At least that’s my understanding.  Is your child Gifted?  Here’s what I know, that worked for us.

First you should know, my child did not have automatic straight A’s just because he’s smart.  In fact, there was a lot of trials, tribulations and fiasco’s along the way that taught me so much – about him.

Gifted Child


This is about you!


A parent has an intuition about their child, and you need to trust it.  ‘People’, whether they are teachers or doctors, councillors or therapist seem to be quick on the draw with a “label”.  I’ve read list after list on what the traits are of a ‘gifted’ child and I’m going to say, it’s not that simple.  What is simple is that as a parent you know if your child is good at something –  focus on that.  Don’t worry about what the lists say.  Don’t think you need to medicate to keep your child calm.  And by all means, don’t think this is going to be easier because your child is smart.  You actually need to pay very specific attention.

Did I know what I was doing?  Not really, but I trusted my instincts.  I knew my child needed more support but I didn’t know I would have to advocate for him on an ongoing basis, as much as I did.  When I think back we were very lucky.  I say lucky because some teachers didn’t think he was smart enough.  Some teachers wanted to hold him back in the curriculum.  And one teacher thought he should be labeled ADHD and be medicated because he wouldn’t sit perfectly still.  But you see teachers have a lot of students to teach and as the years go by, they have more and more new ones, and it’s not one size fits all.  


Here’s what I know


I met all of my son’s classmates over the years as I wanted to really immerse myself in all things ‘gifted.’  Here’s what I know – they were all different.  There wasn’t one child that was the same as any other.  They all had their little quirks and habits that made them unique.  What that made me realize is that we are all like that and the school system is not designed to cater to individuality.

Being deemed ‘gifted’ is the same as being really good at a sport and that is your focus.  But you have to work physically at that sport to really master the game.   It’s the same as being musical, even pitch perfect and dedicating yourself to practice, every day.  With giftedness it’s the same, being really good in one or all of the abilities that are tested, need the same mastery and practice.  It’s just not as obvious as the other physical gifts people have.

We are all born with a gift, we were lucky to discover my sons at an early age.  There is one trait I felt as a mom I noticed his classmates had in common and that is none of them liked to be bored.  If they were not challenged enough, the tom-foolery would begin!  Sounds like a ‘normal’ child, don’t you think?  Is your child Gifted?  If your instincts are telling you they have a natural talent that is ready to blossom, then yes – you are right!  Children do not lack capacity, they lack enough teachers.


More Resources

For more on this topic and natural talent, watch or listen to the Flourish episode –

Nature’s Gift